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MATCHMAKER, MATCHMAKER, MAKE ME A MATCH…

Most of our readers are quite familiar with the phrase: A bad body thought is never about your body. Presumably, when you have a bad body thought, you try to decode its message by asking yourself what the deeper source of your upset might be. However, you may be less used to thinking that your stuck points in the demand feeding process may have symbolic significance as well. Here's a story in which someone's particular stuck point—matchmaking—turned out to have a lot of meaning and the process of decoding proved particularly useful.

One evening at the New York weekly workshop, a participant named June talked about her difficulties making the correct food match when she was hungry. As a very experienced demand feeder, she found it baffling to be in this predicament. We asked her to describe her problem.

"When I'm hungry I just don't know what I want to eat," she said. "Of course, I've legalized foods and I'm surrounded by all types of food. Matter of fact, I've made every category of food a snack food and quite transportable. Yet, even with all this variety and freedom, I'm not clear about what I want."

We asked June and the others in the group to quickly do a Food House fantasy where you imagine a place that is your Food House; in it is all the food you've ever wanted. June imagined her Food House and spent some time there to see what would happen. She recounted her experience to the group.

"I went into the house and was struck by the abundance of chocolate, pasta and vegetables. Chocolate was once my nemesis, but in this fantasy I didn't even touch the stuff. Every variety of colorful pasta existed in my fantasy—strung all over the house! It seemed very decorative. And, oh those vegetables! I didn't eat them. No, I played with them. But again, I didn't know which of these three foods I would choose to eat."

We wondered if this dilemma, "which of three to choose," had any meaning beyond the food. June's face lit up as she said, "I've got it. Currently there are three men in my life. There's my old boyfriend; he's the chocolate. I'm no longer interested in him the way I once was. I've had a playful fling with a younger man who is loads of fun to be around, just like the veggies. And my major heart throb is a man who loves to hang around with me but can't make a commitment. Amazing! I can't believe that my stuck point in this eating process actually expresses the stuck point in my life. I guess it's easier to feel confused about food. Matchmaking is a lot more complicated when it comes to men."

The following week, June told the group that she was no longer using food to play out her conflict about matchmaking. And that, in fact, she'd felt more empowered once she understood that her inability to make the correct food match was actually an expression of her conflict about these men. She felt she was now able to address her real problem and begin to think it through. Unraveling your stuck points pays off!

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